Budgets are about deprivation and discipline. No wonder they're hard to stick to. Here's an idea: Make a spending plan that helps you reach your dreams instead.
If you’ve been thinking about your financial goals and whether you should establish a budget, here’s some advice: Don’t.
In fact, don’t ever use the word “budget” again. Like “diet,” budget is a word that screams deprivation. It implies that by forgoing spending on things you want, you’ll position yourself to somehow be better off. But how can you be better off when you’re missing out on the things you want?
Diets and budgets smack of discipline as well as deprivation — “white knuckling” yourself to a new and better you. Sound like fun? No wonder most of us can’t stick to either one for very long.
Here’s a better idea: When it comes to money, instead of a budget, create a spending plan — something reflecting how you’ll voluntarily choose to allocate the resources at your disposal to more closely mesh your internal desires with your external results.
Starting at the end
A spending plan does the same thing as a budget. You’ll establish your goals for each spending category. You’ll track your expenses. You’ll compare what you spend with your goal for each category, fine-tuning and trying to improve next week’s or next month’s results.
The only difference between a spending plan and budget is where you start the process. With a budget, you start with numbers. Spending plans start in your head.
To start your spending plan, imagine you’re on your deathbed, reliving the happiest moments of your life. Maybe they include things like laughing with your wife, watching your kids grow up, winning an award, a trip you’ve taken, adventures you’ve had, or the people you reached out to and made a difference for.
Then imagine the regrets you might have, things you wanted to do but somehow never got around to.
The purpose of this mental exercise is to reconnect with the unique things and experiences important to you. The purpose of your spending plan is to make your list of happy moments longer and your list of regrets shorter.
If your dream is to take a hot air balloon ride over the Serengeti, or swim with dolphins, your spending plan is how you’ll get there. If it’s to spend more time laughing with those you love or helping those in need, it will deliver.
By starting at the end, your spending plan is no longer about deprivation or pinching pennies. It’s about achieving your dreams. You’re not depriving yourself, you’re choosing to spend less money on things like groceries, insurance and cellphones so you can spend more time doing what makes you happy.
Having a happier life isn’t a chore
Most people spend their lives running like a hamster on a wheel to keep up with their bills and the Joneses. They do what the commercials tell them to do, fill their homes to the rafters with meaningless crap, then end up wondering where their lives went. Along the way, they do things like go on diets they don’t maintain and make budgets they don’t stick with.
You’ve got enough sources of guilt in your life without adding another.
Instead, do something that will make tracking your expenses, spending less and saving more compelling. All you have to do is refocus on your dreams. Determine what you want from life, then build a plan — a spending plan — to achieve it as soon as possible.
And if this sounds like new-age babble, consider this: About 25 years ago, I realized it made me happy to teach people how to manage money and avoid getting ripped off. So while my stock broker peers bought the biggest houses and newest cars their incomes could afford, I kept my old house and car and put away money.
You’re now reading the results. In 1991, I started a TV news segment called “Money Talks News.” Since then, I’ve been living my dream, both on air and, more recently, online with this website.
I didn’t get here with a budget. I got here by realizing what I wanted my life to be about, then tracking my expenses and saving where I could to make it happen. Not because I “should” or because it was the “sensible thing to do,” but because I was compelled by my dream to achieve it at the earliest possible moment.
What’s your dream? Make this the year you start achieving it by thinking it through and developing your own personal spending plan to get there. The hard part is remembering what you really want. The easy part is using budgeting sites and apps like our partner PowerWallet to set aside the money to make it happen.
What’s your dream? Do you have a spending plan to get you there? Share with us in comments below or on our Facebook page.