5 Ways to Seize Control of Your Finances — and Be Happier

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How much power do you feel you have over your money? Your happiness and financial well-being may depend on it, experts say.

People who think they have power over their finances are happier than those who think they have little power over their finances, a study from investment research company Morningstar found a couple of years ago. That result was true whether people’s incomes were high or low.

“People who feel powerful are happier, and people who feel powerful do save more,” Sarah Newcomb, a behavioral economist at Morningstar and its financial guidance subsidiary, HelloWallet, tells Money Talks News.

People who feel they have no control — even if they make more than $200,000 a year — are not as happy as those who make less than $10,000 but do feel they are in control, Newcomb says.

Newcomb offers tips to Money Talks News readers on taking control of what she calls your “personal economy.”

1. Focus on your thinking

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Newcomb — author of the book “Loaded: Money, Psychology, and How to Get Ahead Without Leaving Your Values Behind” — says taking control starts with your thoughts.

Concentrate on how you think about your financial situation, rather than just tediously listing your income and expenses on an app to see if your cash flow is out of whack.

“Why do I need apps to tell me I’m broke if I’m disempowered?” she says. “Focus on your thinking.”

Once you start to think differently, you will behave differently, Newcomb says. “We have the power.”

2. List the things you can — and cannot — control

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Even if you are not the primary earner, you may have more control over your financial life than you think. For example, you might still:

  • Do most of the family shopping
  • Help decide on vacation plans
  • Support the breadwinner emotionally

Thinking about the power you have can naturally improve your sense of financial well-being, Newcomb says.

On the other hand, there are things you might not be able to control. In the short-term, maybe you can’t change your salary, rent or mortgage, or other bills, Newcomb says.

You also might not be able to control:

  • Dependents: If you care for children or parents, you cannot control the fact that this will put a drain on your resources.
  • Geography: Maybe you can’t move, which may affect your cost of living as well as the job opportunities available.
  • Time: Maybe you can’t always make your schedule perfect. Like everyone else, you’re limited to 24-hour days.
  • Other people: You can’t control your spouse’s priorities, salary or habits.

While these things are out of your control now, focus on how that might change over time.

“In the long term, almost everything is changeable if you have a plan, and you invest in making the changes necessary to adjust your life to better suit you,” she says. “That’s the purpose of the exercise: When you try to think about what you can’t control, you may find that you really can do more to change your situation than you thought.”

3. Put time on your side

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Most of us don’t save because “we’re not wired for it,” Newcomb says.

Newcomb explains in her book that going for the immediate reward instead of focusing on long-term goals — known as “discounting the future” — is responsible for many types of goal-defeating behaviors such as procrastination, drug addiction, impulsive shopping and failure to save money for the future.

So, you need to change your natural inclination to spend by creating a plan to save. To begin, ask yourself how far ahead you think about money: A week? A month? Five years?

One study revealed a connection between how far ahead people think and how much money they have saved.

On average, people earning $50,000 a year who looked far ahead — like to retirement — saved more dollars than those making $100,000 who didn’t look far ahead, Newcomb says.

You can train yourself to extend your time horizon, she says:

  • If you need inspiration, look at yourself through online age-progression software that will use a picture of you now to generate what you may look like in 20 years.
  • Write a detailed essay visualizing the details of your retirement: Where will you live — city, suburb, countryside? How will you spend your time? Who will you spend your time with?
  • If you typically only look ahead a month or two, create a one-year plan and put it in place starting in 2019. Once you have the one-year plan, try making a three-year plan; or if you have a three-year plan, go for five.

If you train your imagination to see a bit further into the future, you will save more money over time, Newcomb says. Otherwise you will be at a higher risk for a higher debt-to-income ratio, lower savings rate and more impulsive spending.

“It doesn’t cost more to think ahead,” Newcomb says.

4. Celebrate your victories

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Feeling powerful when you’re in debt can be difficult. So, change the story you’re telling yourself, Newcomb says.

For example, paying down $1,000 on a credit card might feel less like “getting ahead” and more like just filling a hole. “Money feels like it’s gone, and that feels disempowering,” Newcomb says.

Instead, she suggests taking a more positive approach: Think of how you’ve just increased your net worth, plus avoided future interest payments on the $1,000.

Taking joy and pride in your victories is one key to feeling more in control of your finances.

“Celebrate every positive thing, like ‘Are you doing better than last year?’ ” Newcomb says. “Did you feed your kids today? Good, celebrate that. A lot of people can’t.”

And don’t worry about what other people have that you don’t. “The person carrying a Louis Vuitton purse, you don’t know if she’s crying in the shower over her credit card bill,” Newcomb says.

6. Enjoy your positive payoff

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Money is a major cause of stress for millions. Financial advisers see clients who actually have so much money they’ll never outlive it. Nevertheless, these same rich folks may have so much anxiety about money they can’t even buy their grandchild a birthday present, Newcomb says.

When you feel in control of your money, your stress ebbs. Lower stress leads to better sleep, a better quality of life, better relationships — all benefits you get even without having more money, Newcomb says.

“When you’re stressed out, you may get sick, miss work, lose your job and get caught in a poverty trap because you feel you can’t afford life,” Newcomb says. “When we feel the power we have, when we take one little step forward, instead of stress we end up in a positive feedback loop.”

Do you feel in control of your finances? Share your experience with us in comments below or on our Facebook page.

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