It’s one thing to surrender to the occasional impulse buy — that watch gleaming from inside the display case, or a pair of black shoes that will add the perfect dash of sophistication to your favorite business suit.
But when your purchases shift from impulsive to compulsive, you may be grappling with a more serious condition: a shopping addiction.
In our society, the phrase “shop till you drop” translates as frivolous and fun. But when spending presents a real problem, the glamour fades and debt mounts.
Psychologists call it a compulsive buying disorder, and it is characterized as an impulse-control issue, just like gambling or binge eating. Compulsive buying disorder has the potential to create a whirlwind of emotional and financial distress.
Here are some of the telltale signs someone is becoming a problem shopper — and some advice about what he or she can do to curb spending.
1. You have many unopened or tagged items in your closet
We’re not talking about the sweater your aunt gave you last holiday season, but about items you picked out on your own that sit unopened or with their tags still attached.
You’ve likely forgotten about some of these purchases — boxes of shoes lining the bottom of your closet, or jackets that have never seen the light of day.
2. You often purchase things you don’t need or didn’t plan to buy
You may be easily tempted by items that you can do without: a fifth candle for your bedroom dresser, a new iPod case — you get the idea. You’re particularly vulnerable if you’ve self-diagnosed to having an obsession, such as shoes or designer handbags. Just because your splurges tend to stick to one category doesn’t make them any more rational.
3. An argument or frustration sparks an urge to shop
Compulsive shopping is an attempt to fill an emotional void, like loneliness, lack of control or lack of self-confidence. Shopaholics also have a tendency to suffer from mood disorders, eating disorders and substance-abuse problems.
So, if you tend to binge on comfort food after a bad day, studies suggest you may be more likely to indulge in a shopping spree, too.
4. You experience a rush of excitement when buying
Shopaholics experience a high or an adrenaline rush from the act of purchasing an item. Experts say dopamine, a brain chemical associated with pleasure, is often released in waves as shoppers see a desirable item and consider buying it. This burst of excitement can become addictive.
5. Purchases are followed by feelings of remorse
Guilt after shopping isn’t something that’s limited to big purchases. Instead, compulsive shoppers are just as often attracted to deals and bargain hunting, and they may regret it as lots of smaller buys pile up. Despite any remorse that follows, though, shopaholics are adept at rationalizing just about any purchase.
6. You try to conceal shopping habits
If you’re hiding shopping bags in your daughter’s closet or constantly looking over your shoulder for passing co-workers as you shop online, this could be a sign you’re spending money at the expense of your family or job.
7. You feel anxious on days you don’t shop
It’s one thing to feel anxious if you haven’t had your morning cup of joe. But if you’re feeling on edge because you haven’t swiped a debit card all day, be concerned.
Shopaholics have reported feeling out of sorts if they haven’t had their shopping fix, and they have admitted to shopping online if they couldn’t physically pull away from their day’s responsibilities.
8. You shop beyond your means
Perhaps you max out credit cards and open new ones in order to keep purchasing things. The mounting debt may also tempt you to lie or steal.
Ways to kick the shopping habit
If the characteristics above sound a lot like you or someone you know, don’t worry just yet. And if you’re on the fence about whether you really have a problem, even figuring out why you’re always shopping and how you can change can be helpful — to both your well-being and your budget.
Fortunately, there are some simple ways to help you kick a shopping habit:
- Find a new activity. Exercising, listening to music, meditating, reading a book, watching TV — any of these activities can potentially be a substitute for shopping and will be a much lighter burden on your wallet.
- Identify triggers. Take note of what’s likely to send you off to the nearest department store, whether it’s an argument with your significant other or frustration after a business meeting. When these feelings overcome you, resist shopping at all costs and find a healthier way to work it out.
- Remove temptation. It’s no secret that you shouldn’t stroll through your favorite boutique if you’re trying to curb your spending. Try to limit shopping trips and go only when necessary. If online shopping is your weakness, resist the urge to surf your favorite stores’ sites and even consider keeping your laptop out of reach.
- Carry only enough cash to buy what you need. Leave your debit and credit cards at home. Create a shopping list with estimated costs and stick to it when you’re at the store.
- Ask for help. If you’re still struggling with compulsive spending, ask for help. You can start by asking a friend or family member to help keep you in check, or by seeking out money management classes. But it might also be wise to enlist professional help. Check out recovery programs like Stopping Overshopping, Shopaholics Anonymous and Debtors Anonymous.
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Kari Huus contributed to this post.